Musings from Fanterland

As a starting RPG player with a diagnosis of severe ADHD, I wanted to give GMing a shot. But once I invited my friends to play, I struggled with a lot of guilt whenever I wasn't fully prepared. I remember wanting to stop GMing completely. But it turned out that there are lots of tools to find a GM-style that suits your needs. Here are the 10 things I wish I knew as a starting game master with ADHD. Illustration by Emiel Boven   (CC BY 4.0) 1. Remember that the GM is a player too As a GM we want to make sure players have a good time. Sometimes we are willing to go so far to make sure of this, that we lose sight of what makes the game fun for us. This is when we need to remind ourselves that we are a player too. Having fun while engaging with the game is non-negotiable. If the game starts feeling like work, that's a red flag. Just take a step back, and look for a way to go back to a place where the game can be enjoyed again or take a break. If unsure, ask a friend or one of the ...

  It is easy to want to be things. I want to be good at sports. I want to be a tidy person. It’s a lot harder to actually be something. Because we are what we do. No matter how unfair and outside of our own control, we can’t be the loving father if we don’t spend time with the child. This blogpost is about choosing what not to be so that we can dedicate our time to what you do want to be. It's not the usual RPG stuff, but it is about making time for other things which are more important, which is why I haven't done much in the RPG sphere lately. And hey, I'm still figuring out what this blog is about as I go! There is an infinity of things to be The difference between what you want to be and what you are can grow bigger and bigger, and you can start feeling the strain as the distance between the two stretches further and further. You can feel disjoint, you can feel like an impostor. Why do we want to be so much, even when we don’t act to realize any of it? Identities ...